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Furnace of Doubt: "I would be fine with that email, but I also have a lot of non-binary friends, so I'm not sure how more conservative co-workers would react. Your proposed email sends friendly enough to me. Maybe change "should be used" to "I prefer they be used"?"

Hi, just a note that the wording "I prefer they be used" can be seen as offensive and transphobic. There is no "preference", a person's pronouns are what they are and no one should have to say they have a preference on that matter. A person's pronouns are their pronouns, period.

Final update from the OP:

It turns out the scene was from Season 4, Episode 1 of Parks and Recreation:

Andy: Hey, so Tom offered me a job again. As my manager, what do you think I should do?
April: Well what do you want to do?
Andy: I think it’d be kind of cool to work for Tom.
April: So take it.
Andy: But working at a start-up can be kind of risky.
April: So don’t take it.
Andy: But Tom told me to follow my dreams.
April: So take it.
Andy: But this isn’t my dream.
April: So don’t take it.
Andy: I don’t know what to do.
April: Me neither.
Andy: You give such good advice. Babe, I love you.
April: You’re welcome.

Thanks all!

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at: "I’ll put in a plug for a lightweight laptop"

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Yeah, we've all been there RobinofFrocksley! Thanks for posting this and thank you to everyone who's taken the time to add recommendations, we've added this fabulous foundation of musical fury to the sidebar and Best Of blog!

Interesting discussion and answers, thanks! We've added this to the sidebar and Best Of blog!

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Good question and fascinating conversation, so of course it's been added to the sidebar and Best Of blog!

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Oooh, thanks for starting this and thanks to all who chimed in with suggestions! This post has been added to the sidebar and Best Of blog!

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Thanks for asking this, it's a really good question these days! We've added it to the sidebar and Best Of blog!

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